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Is Age Just a Number?


I have been doing some contemplating on this matter, as I have a birdie in my ear.

The birdie has the name, “Mom” and I am told nearly every time I see her, that “I am not getting any younger“, “You’re 55 now” really, things that I obviously know about myself. I usually respond with, ” Yes, it is a blessing, ” or ” I’m not dead yet”, but somehow it seems like a futile conversation.

Whatever age you are, do you start to think about this. Age just being a number?  I know that the 55’s of today are not my grandma’s or mother’s 55’s! Women are learning a lot more, educating themselves, taking care of themselves. In addition, I do believe it is a state of mind. You can be 35 and feel 65! I certainly know this with the health conditions I have had. I try and be my own self-advocate, and in each case, have made strides and great gains. I feel pretty decent.

Do you hear this mantra from anyone in your life? “You’re not getting any younger.” and what that is supposed to mean? Yes, everyone gets older!

 “Aging is not ‘lost youth’ but a new stage of opportunity and strength.”
– Betty Friedan

Do you often think, I am ___________ age, I need to now do this, this, this and this?  Do you have a checklist for your life? Or a bucket list that needs completing before you will sit back in your chair with a sigh of relief that you have accomplished what you set out to do?

I am not going to say I don’t think about things I want to do, or that I might be a bit more adventurous now that I am older. Two  years ago  I took up paddleboarding) and this year hoisted a sail. (Both new to me) Part of it was me thinking of things I have yet to do.

When our age dictates in our mind, what we can and cannot do, or can and cannot wear, that is when it may become a problem of perception and mindset. I have worked with adult guitar students who have asked me, ” Am I too old to learn guitar?” I always come back with the same answer, “No. You are never too old to learn anything. ”

Now, the question still remains about a certain someone continuing to remind me that I am getting older. After some thought, if you have a similar experience, it may be because that person is also getting older and may be regretting not doing certain things or being the person, they want to be.

I have felt even more so lately that the increasing numbers of one’s age is not what people fear most, nor is it the wrinkles. I often think it is the independence, (or perhaps lack thereof) the possibility of disease or declining health that frightens people more. So, it is important to “work your brain”, or keep the mind active as we get older as well.

I like to think of Betty White as my mentor! Always active, love of animals, you could see her inner joy and her age did not stop her from doing what she loved. As a muscian, I look at Mick Jagger! 80 years old and still performing and loving what he does. If you don’t get in the mindset of I am too old to do…. it is very freeing.

If you missed my post on what I would tell my younger self, READ IT HERE

“In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”– Abraham Lincoln

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject in the comments section.

Have a great weekend!

Jess xx



  • Leslie Clingan
    Posted at 23:01h, 09 September Reply

    When I used to complain to my mom that I was tired, she would say ‘just wait til you are my age.’ Ha!! She lived to be 95. And she was tired. Day to day, I don’t sit around thinking about my age. But something will happen and I will realize how quickly the last 20 years have flown by (and yet haven’t flown by really at all) and that I am not guaranteed another 20 years. I don’t have an official bucket list of things to accomplish but I have places I want to see and want to shower those I love with LOVE for as long as I can.

  • mireille
    Posted at 10:22h, 29 August Reply

    I often joke that I am getting old but it’s more because I still sit on the floor cross leg and then it is a little tougher to get up, lol! I think I am healthier now that I have ever been with making running and walking a priority. And it is not only the physical part but also the mental health: I might not get together as much with my long time friends (we all have busy schedules) but I get together with my running friends and I am trying to be better with hanging out with others at church. Having a group of peers that enjoy what you enjoy is a blessing. I also feel like as I have gotten older, I have enjoyed life more.

  • Gail
    Posted at 08:41h, 29 August Reply

    Great post Jess. I was actually planning a post on ageing this week, but haven’t been well enough. I’m surprised it’s your mom who tells you you’re not getting any younger. Perhaps there are things she didn’t do which she now regrets? My mum is 91 and doesn’t accept her age at all: she is forever lamenting her wrinkles and saying how she hates being old. Our relationship with ageing is very complex, isn’t it! Thanks for linking x

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:56h, 29 August Reply

      Thank you Gail. Hope you are feeling better now! I could have written more, but I find that even on IG, more people look at the pictures that read long posts! I wrote that I think that could be it, that there are things that she regrets not having done, but it is tough hearing it from my mom every time I see her. I am less worried about wrinkles than losing my mental capabilities. it is complex!

  • Neti
    Posted at 17:50h, 28 August Reply

    Age is Truly just a number Jess. I will be 72 this year and do not give a damn about wrinkles or dimples on my body. Back when I turned 60 I was sad and worried about the aging process. But, when I saw how well my Mom and her Sisters took aging in stride, I felt so relieved. My Mom is 92 now and her sister who died last year was 99. I do have some pain in my legs from an auto accident occasionally, but I live to Thrive. Yes. . .My body is not the same as it was in the dating years, but it did give birth to a Gentleman and I survived a near fatal car accident. Therefore, I have Sooooo Much to be Thankful for and I try to live each day to the fullest.
    Enjoy every moment Jess. . .

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:53h, 29 August Reply

      Thanks Neti for your input! That is great that your mom and sisters felt this way as well. I didn’t know you were in an auto accident, and I so love your attitude and way of thinking Neti. I am with you. Yes, I try and be grateful and thankful for what I do have an enjoy each day as well. xx

  • Cheryl Tucker
    Posted at 12:14h, 28 August Reply

    I have to say, no one warned me about aging. And I can say that my 60s are exponentially harder than my 50s. My husband said to me the other day that he admired my dedication to exercise and fitness. I told him it was driven by fear. Fear of losing my independence. I come from a family of very unhealthy peple and I always said I was scared straight!

    Even with my efforts to stay fit, I feel the decline and the extra effort it takes to keep moving and doing things for myself and to eat healthily. I am pretty sure I will have to find even more motivation and strength of will as time goes on. But the bright side of all this is I am up for the challenge. Bring it on! Ha ha!

    This is a great topic Jess! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!l


    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 12:48h, 28 August Reply

      Thank you Cheryl for your thoughtful reply. I can’t beleive I turned 55 this year. I don’t want to lose my independence either. For a number of years I didn’t drive as I was on heavier medications. So now, I am out there driving because of that too. Yay, just keep on truckin” and do the best you can!!

  • jodie
    Posted at 20:42h, 25 August Reply

    It can be so freeing Jess. We just have to enjoy every day,

  • Jacqui Berry
    Posted at 02:38h, 25 August Reply

    Beautifully written post Jess. Found it very interesting x Jacqui x

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