I am bringing you this monthly series and am happy to introduce my blogger friend, Patti from her blog Not Dead Yet Style.
I loved the name from the start as it seems the older we get the more society may perceive us as not having as much style! I do believe this is changing as more and more ladies share their beautiful looks and fashion , just through their Over 40 blogs! We know there are many ladies out there that love fashion into their 50s, 60s, 70s and beyond
1. I LOVE the name of your blog Not Dead Yet.
Do you find as people get older, there is a fear of one becoming less noticeable? Doing
less? Tell me the thought behind the name?
The name came from one of my dear friends, Joni. She is six months
younger than me (argh!) so we are peers. We still love style, music,
makeup and our husbands. During one of our talks she said, “Well, we’re
not dead yet.” Thus a title was born! Then came the hard work. Of course I
have become less noticeable in a physical way over the last ten years. The
days of turning heads at the pub are past. But I still want to look and feel
alive, and creative, and have something to bring to the table.
2. Do you think there is a stigma with women over 40 still in how one
should dress, or are more and more women “taking risks” when
choosing and wearing clothes?
Sadly, there are still lots of books and blogs advising women over 40 (and
by the way, 40 sounds so young!) on what not to wear. Those lists bore
me. Now if you have a corporate job with a dress code, of course you
follow along. But many of us have the freedom to dress as the spirit moves
us. It’s wonderful to see women over 40 expressing themselves with their
clothing. I think risk-taking is an energizing way to go; after all, we aren’t
going to get arrested for what we wear (most of the time).
3. You have lovely curly hair; how do you style it in the morning? In the
Thank you! I try to do as little with my hair as possible, as it’s very fine and
fragile. I wash it two or three times a week, year round. I let it air dry with a
half dozen claw-clips in it, to enhance the curl. In the morning, I smooth in
some leave-in conditioner, and shake it and go. I might add a dollop of
leave-in cream during the day if it’s getting unruly.
4. Tell us how did you start your Monday linkup Visible Monday, and how
long have you hosting it? Do you find it helpful in getting inspiration?
I started visible Monday after a trip to New York City, during which I was
starting to feel invisible due to my age. I had to write about it on my blog,
and the response was so positive, I created a venue for all of us to feel
more visible. We started with just three or four participants and it’s grown to
well over 100. I have taken the summer off from Visible Monday, but we will
be up and running again in just three weeks!
5. Are there any designers that inspire you, or any other individuals in your
life, when it comes to dressing?
I find most of my inspiration from fellow bloggers, yourself included! As far
as designers, I love anything by Eileen Fisher, although her price points are
high for me. I enjoy Trina Turk, Nanette Lepore, and Betsey Johnson for
their feminine creations. I sometimes luck out and find them in a
consignment or thrift store. That’s a happy day.
6. If your best friend wore something, the “rules ” deemed inappropriate
due to age, would you say anything to her? What is considered
Great question, Jess! I probably would not say anything about what she’s
wearing. Since I am a shrink by nature and by training, I might ask her how
she’s feeling that day : > I support creativity and individuality, and have
“rules” only for myself, not for others.
7. Do you think more women are accepting getting older, and growing old
gracefully, or are we still wanting to find “the magic lotion” “pill” “
I think we midlife women are fairly diverse in how we answer this question.
Many of my friends, while growing old “gracefully”, still enjoy facials, skin
creams, and some measures short of surgery, like Botox and fillers. I don’t
see anything wrong or bad about this; we are all managing our aging as we
see fit. I must say I have high respect and regard for those women who
eschew external aids, and truly age “naturally.” (See, e.g. Judi Dench and
8. If you are going away to the beach for vacation, what 6 items would you
have to pack?
When we travel, it’s almost always to the big city, and we live across the
street from the beach! But if I had to be on my way to Hawaii, I would bring
a couple breezy cotton dresses, flat sandals, a huge sun hat, and my own
bathing outfit: A surfing “skin”, and a pair of colorful board shorts. And
sunscreen that works on the face of the sun.
9. Dresses or pants? Why?
Skirts are my favorites, because they are both comfortable and versatile,
and easy to fit. When shopping, I find myself attracted to the skirt section.
This summer, I have been experimenting with some easy dresses, like
those made by Karina, and they certainly make dressing more simple. I
love my cotton boyfriend trousers too
10. What are you more inclined to splurge on, or invest in?
I don’t mind spending some $$$ on fine jewelry, a great fitting and funky
pair of shoes, or a fine leather bag. I am spoiled by years of consignment
and thrift shopping, and I am allergic to full price for most clothing items.
11. Tell the readers something that may surprise them!
And that won’t get me in trouble?! I am a late starter in life. I became a
psychotherapist at age 40. I didn’t marry Sandy till I was 47, and that’s the
single best thing I ever did. And I didn’t have my first alcoholic beverage
until I was 23, but I grew to enjoy them : >
12. What advice would you give to someone 40+ just starting blogging?
You don’t want to be like the others, you want to be you. Don’t try to copy
other bloggers, even if they are successful. Speak with your voice, be kind,
and keep your mind open to all possibilities. For the technical part, there
are lots of good articles on the web about how to market your blog. I still
believe the most important thing is to be an individual with a point of view.
13. Do you have a “uniform” or a favorite outfit or style of clothing you like
to wear on the weekend?
Since I have retired, every day is the weekend! For summer, I often wear
cotton or linen cropped pants or a full skirt. On top you will find me in a
loose and light tank or tee. To dress this look up a bit, I just add bangle
bracelets, higher wedge sandals, and/or some drop earrings. Every day
means red lipstick, that’s my signature.
14. Milan or New York?
I haven’t been to Milan yet. I am still working on my beloved husband to
create our retirement getaway in New York City. New York forever.
Thank you Patti and readers, I hope you enjoyed this interview.
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Thank you, and Have a great weekend! I will be back in the Lake Norman, Charlotte area, as we come home from our trip Sunday!