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Ways to Help Your Mental Health During the Coronavirus

 

Hi friends,

I hope you are doing well.

My brother has told me each month during these crisis feels longer . My mom is here to be around us as family and to have company.

This crisis is hard on so many people for so many different reasons.

Do you watch the news? I have gone from watching the news daily to reading the New York Times daily newsletter called, ” The Morning..” My mom, hubby and I have a routine of sitting out on our deck, talking about the headlines of the day over breakfast and coffee. Waiting for a bit of sunshine in a rather dreary forecast of daily news.

Our mental health is being effected more and more during this time.

 

The TV news was making me anxious and depressed. Studies have shown this crisis has been taking a toll on out mental health at this time.

Uncertainty, has created fear, anxiety and depression for many people.

I’ve watched the Netflix series on the Coronavirus, but feel that until a vaccine is ready to be administered to millions of people, we are in this spot. Kind of “Corona Limbo” where you are trying to do some things “semi-normal ” but still not normal.

I concern myself with people who have lost their jobs, had to close their business, or are living under hard circumstance.

It is tough dealing with something we have no control over.

We do have control over one thing, our actions. So, my family and I try and do what we can in this situation.

I think about my mom’s situation and realize there are many people out there alone, needing someone to listen to them, comfort them, or support them.

What are some things we can do to help our mental health during this crisis?

  • Be an ear for someone who needs it. Be there for someone. My mom has told me no matter how many times she repeats her fears, issues, I have listened, tried to give advice. Just being there for someone can help both parties.
  • Limit your news time. As i mentioned, I used to watch the news daily. With the never ending negative stories of racism, coronavirus, police issues, it was hard to digest and not feel angry or sad. As I mentioned, reading a newsletter, you don’t get the tone you would when watching television. You can select what you want to read.
  • Call a friend or video chat. My sister will use Face TIme and call me or my mother just to chat. Being able to bounce ideas or thoughts about the current situation can help as well. If you aren’t speaking to someone, you may not understand all of the media that is out there. Think: The media can be very sensational. Talk through some of the things that you are scared about.
  • Meditation or relaxation- My mom has used the app Calm, and found it to help with deep breathing exercises  and sessions on how to be less anxious or more relaxed. I do deep breathing when I am anxious and try to focus on the moment. There are also Guided Meditations that can help you be more relaxed and centered.
  • Telehealth- therapists are willing to work with you via video and telehealth. Talking to a professional is on a regular basis can help one sort out the problems one is having. Depression, anxiety and lonliness is not something you have to deal with alone.
  • Help others- when this first began, we began asking neighbors, who need assistance, what we could get for them at the grocery store. Finding a way to help another person, can help your well being or mental state
  • Living in the moment, and one day at a time. I know for me, I loved to plan. Plan trips, weekend get togethers, events like going to a musical etc. With covid, there is no planning. Taking each day as it comes has helped me, helped my mom , when things seem less hopeful.
  • Exercise /Movement. This gets endorphins flowing and they help us to feel better I enjoy the peacefulness of a walk on our trail, in the woods, or on the greenway. It enables me to be present and appreciate my surroundings
  • Examine how you are thinking. Years ago, when I was first diagnosed with EDS, I went through CBT, or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT looks at how we think and how we can change negative or destructive thoughts. A great book for this is –CBT Made Simple- Strategies for Managing Anxiety, Depression, Anger Panic, and Worry.     and if anxiety is what is troubling you, I was recommended this book– I have dealt with Generalized Anxiety Disorder for years now, and these have helped me learn ways to deal with it.
  • Do something fun or that brings you joy. We all need joy in our lives! A steady stream of negativity and uncertainty can leave you feeling hopeless or alone. What brings you joy? It can be something simple. For me, seeing and petting dogs- brings me joy! Eating ice cream brings me joy. Think about this.
  • Seek additional help if you need it. It is important to take care of yourself, and this includes how you are coping during this time. If you find you are hopeless, feeling overwhelmed or can’t cope , please seek help.

 

Enjoy the weekend!

Back with more fashion on Monday! ( You know that brings me joy!)

Stay safe

Jess xx

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15 Comments

  • Reply
    shelbeeontheedge1
    July 30, 2020 at 12:34 pm

    Such a great post, Jess! I think there are so many people suffering from mental health issues that are being so exacerbated right now. It is scary and sad. But the ideas you have shared are really great ones and can be very helpful in maintaining a level of stability. I am so glad that your mom is with you and you all are making it through this trying time. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and linking up!

    Shelbee
    http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com

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    OnceUponaTimeHappilyEverAfter.com
    July 26, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    I always forget to check notify me of new comments. Would love to know if you and Mary are friends.

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    OnceUponaTimeHappilyEverAfter.com
    July 26, 2020 at 2:23 pm

    Jess, do you know Mary Clewley? She blogs at Hope Filled Living. hopefilledliving.com I believe EDS is what her daughter Ashley has. Mary is a delightful person and Ashley is a lovely, creative young woman. I know you would be a blessing to them if you aren’t already.

    Oy this has been a trying time. My 93 year old mother is in Lexington, KY in a personal care unit. My brother lives in Lexington, too, but is only allowed to see her once in a while through a plexiglass screen about 10 feet away. He stands outside the window of her apartment trying to get a glimpse of her. And we all call daily. But mom is sinking and we don’t know how to save her. This has been the most difficult season of her life. And in many ways, of ours. Glad you have your mother with you.

    We are limiting our news intake, too. Some days I even forget to check the number of new Covid cases in our city. Which is a really good thing. Because when I do check, then I sit and wring my hands for hours. Doing something for others is such a great idea. Thank you for that suggestion. And the reminder to meditate. Need to do that more regularly.

    • Reply
      Jess Jannenga
      July 27, 2020 at 1:14 pm

      Hi! I don’t know Mary Clewly. I will have to check out the blog. I know a few people with EDS, as it is a difficult disease . Ups and downs, like any other. I have the Hypermobility type. Oh, I feel for your family and your mom. We had to pick up my mom in the midle of May as she was struggling by herself. It must be so hard not being able to visit.
      I am glad you liked the post, I just read my news these days and find it less stressful than hearing it every day.

  • Reply
    Lisa D.
    July 26, 2020 at 8:07 am

    I was just thinking about writing a post on the news today too. It has taken a toll on me.
    I have managed to stay sane so far. I exercise each day and and try to find a craft or something to do besides clean house. I was doing that every day then I decided to just make house cleaning a Friday thing. I am so ready for this to all be over with.
    Lisa

  • Reply
    Midlife and Beyond
    July 25, 2020 at 1:50 pm

    Great post Jess and some great advice to follow and think about. I think we are all getting through it the best way we can, while looking after our loved ones. I
    have two boys who are young men now. My youngest lost his job in London at the very beginning of all of this and even though he’s having various facetime
    interviews, he’s had no luck yet – as most companies are in a dire way. We are all trying to stay strong and soldier on. It’s definitely a tough time.
    Take care
    Alison xx

    • Reply
      Jess Jannenga
      July 26, 2020 at 10:48 am

      HI Alison.
      Thank you! I know, it has been a hard year. I am sorry to hear about your son, I know it has to be difficult with jobs. My sister in law works in a nursing home and is stressed to the max. Best wishes for your son!

  • Reply
    Jodie
    July 24, 2020 at 3:34 pm

    We’ve totally stopped watching the news which is sad. I feel like we don’t get all of the information or at least don’t get it unbiased…which is what I thought was what the news was supposed to be.
    Great ideas Jess.
    XOOX
    Jodie

    • Reply
      jess jannenga
      July 24, 2020 at 6:08 pm

      Hi Jodie
      The news can be biased and sensational. I prefer the news via The Times Newsletter and other sources. Thank you!

  • Reply
    Straight A Style
    July 24, 2020 at 2:43 pm

    These are really good tips! It has definitely been a tough time.

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

    • Reply
      jess jannenga
      July 24, 2020 at 6:06 pm

      Thank you Amy, glad you like my article. Yes, it has! Take care!

  • Reply
    fiercefashion
    July 24, 2020 at 10:43 am

    You are so right about the struggle. I do think about “when this is over”, because we just *can’t* keep living like this. It’s like 2020 will be wiped off the calendars. Have a great weekend–I hope you take another opportunity to get out!

    • Reply
      Jess Jannenga
      July 24, 2020 at 11:46 am

      So right Kim! This is very difficult at times and I keep up with the news via my newsletters . I hope you enjoy your weekend as well. Heading out to lunch at a restaurant today.

  • Reply
    Michelle Churchman
    July 24, 2020 at 2:55 am

    Excellent post, Jess! I stopped watching TV news years ago for the reasons you cited. Now I read the newspaper online – the Washington Post and our local city newspaper. You are absolutely right about focusing on what you can do rather than what you can’t. I’ve involved myself on the BLM issues by writing to our state reps. I’m not well enough to go out and protest, so I do what I can. CBT is great recommendation!

    I’ve also stopped thinking in terms of “when this is over,” simply because their is no expiration date. While I genuinely hope we will see a vaccine next year, and will be thrilled if we do, I can’t have my happiness and sense of well-being dependent on an event that may or may not happen.

    Thank you for addressing such an important topic.

    Michelle
    https://mybijoulifeonline.com

    • Reply
      Jess Jannenga
      July 24, 2020 at 11:44 am

      Hi Michelle, thank you! That is great that yu are writing the state reps, anything to help. I so agree!

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