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Go Gray or No Way! Hair Thoughts on Over 40 Ladies

Happy Friday friends!

“It is not by the gray of the hair that one knows the age of the heart.” — Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton
Well, I hope you didn’t think I was going to shock the heck out of you with my hair gone completely grey just yet! As you know, there is much media attention on women going grey at a certain age. I remember when my mom’s hair, seeing her one moment with light brown hair, to the next with solid white, was a bit of a shock! It truly didn’t take us all long to get used to it and really like the snow white hair on my mom.

How do we get it in the first place? Is it a matter of genetics and a combination of stress and other factors/ “ a paper published in Nature Communications, an international team of researchers describe the first gene linked to greying hair. The finding came from a larger study on genes related to a number of hair traits, including balding, monobrow, curliness and beard growth (for more on these other findings see here).Adhikari says that for grey hair, only one gene stood out. It’s a gene that’s been connected to blonde hair in Europeans, which makes sense since it also affects how much melanin the hair follicle receives. But this is the first study to link the gene to greying. **credit Time*

My mom has medium toned skin and although I certainly believe anyone can go gray if and when they want; I think for me it is about my skin tone.  I have fair skin and think it would just completely wash me out! I have had this conversation with friends, and they seem to agree. My natural hair is auburn but currently my hair is seeing a lot of gray roots only the hairline and top of my head. I do get it done to not have 2 toned hair as I have been kind of astounded how much is coming in , but not really getting too excited, as it’s going to happen. Even though I have long hair, it is fine, so the combination of grey, fair skin and long fine hair doesn’t seem to work. ( for me)

What I think must be tough is the in-between stages. Having grey and a color just doesn’t look hot to me. I asked my friend what she would do about the stage in between and she said ” wear a hat!” That might be a long time wearing hats!

There are many ladies over 40 that can wear grey hair very well and I love the look on them. The silver and white highlights can also look unique and as long as it is conditioned well and healthy. I am a firm believer that people should wear what they want and what makes them happy and I feel the same about gray hair. I do find it interesting that it was a trend and continues to be a bit of a trend with 20 somethings, as I would have never thought to color my hair gray when I was that age.. but some trends come and go.

When you think of grey hair, do you think of anyone in particular? I think of the grey streak in Stacey London’s hair, Jaymie Lee Curtis, and other ladies I know in real life.  I certainly like the freedom it represents, but is it right for everyone? I know there are tips on letting it grow out, or making the transition easier. I’m just curious of your thoughts! I can imagine the freedom but if you have a “friend” that would look 15 years older would you discourage her from going grey?

I think it is great that there is such a positive perception of women choosing to go grey. When I grew up, it was quite different, right?

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I doubt it will be something I do, just because of my fair skin.  I certainly have seen plenty of lovely ladies with silver/grey/white hair, but wonder are there other things to let go? Would  you wear less makeup,  forgo high heels as let’s face it , its more natural? ( ok, playing devil’s advocate) or would it give you the time and energy to amplify your wardrobe, makeup,, focus on other areas of your appearance?

Here is an example of my friend and Physical Therapist/ dry needle afficionado- Lisa. who has an amazing head of naturally curly silver grey hair. It’s healthy and really works for her!

I would love to hear your thoughts on grey hair, going grey? 

Thank you ladies and stay stylish!

Have a great weekend!

Jess xo

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  • thestylesplash
    Posted at 06:43h, 10 May Reply

    I’m getting a few grey hairs coming through around the sides (which I sometimes pull out!) but I’ll keep on dyeing it red for a while yet. Maybe when I have lots of grey hair I’ll go for something radically different – I keep telling my husband that it’ll be the perfect blank canvas for a pink or lilac dye!

    Emma xxx

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:11h, 10 May Reply

      Ive got a few more than a few on top! hehe. I can see you with pink or lilac, that would be awesome Emma! 🙂 xx

  • Jennie
    Posted at 16:39h, 03 May Reply

    I think I will hold off for a bit and continue to color my hair. I am certainly noticing an upswing in the amount of greys that are coming in. I think when the time comes I will try a cool silver and see how it goes. Thanks for linking up, Jess!

  • Anna Marcus
    Posted at 21:58h, 02 May Reply

    i don’t think grey is my colour Jess, so I will be covering it. Have you noticed how many women cover their grey roots by dying their hair pitch black only to see the roots springing back in a week’s time. I think the best way to cover grey is to have highlights. They are not so obvious and could be easily blended with greay

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 11:09h, 03 May Reply

      I know Anna! I think its a personal choice and not everyone may look great or like themselves with grey. I realized this too with the black hair as well! I dont think ill go grey for quite a while. xx

  • jacqui
    Posted at 03:39h, 02 May Reply

    I’ll be colouring my grey hair for some years to come, I’m not ready for that yet! I’ve got plenty of friends who look super with grey hair, so it’s up to the individual. Your hair colour is lovely btw. Jacqui

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 10:06h, 02 May Reply

      Hi Jacqui, thank you! I love your hair dark brown, it’s something that I am curious about with other women my age. 🙂 xx

  • Rena
    Posted at 02:34h, 01 May Reply

    Jess, as you know I’ve recently given up the juice and I’m letting my silver grow out. I, too, worry about looking washed out but I think that it can be countered with a change in makeup as well as the color of my clothing. You have gorgeous hair … so why fix it if it ain’t broke? In my case, I felt that I had too much gray to continue to cover it.


    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 10:05h, 02 May Reply

      Thank you Rena, I am with you ” if it ain’t broke…” I bet you will look great with grey hair. Yes, it is about changing color around your face, etc.. It would be a sense of freedom!

  • Elle
    Posted at 18:52h, 30 April Reply

    Great topic Jess!
    I would find it hard to abandon my red hair if I were you! As well, I like the golden blonde of my own hair, even when grey mixes with it a bit. I just end to prefer the warmer tones, although grey is lovely on the beautiful women feature here!
    xx, elle

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:33h, 02 May Reply

      Hi Elle, Thank you . Yes, I will be covering the greys for awhile. I love your blonde hair on you too! I think with certain skin tones grey looks great!
      Can’t wait to read about your Portugal trip too! Glad you enjoyed the post xx

  • shelbeeontheedge1
    Posted at 07:21h, 30 April Reply

    I don’t know when I will let the gray take over completely! At 43, I am not quite ready for it. Although one of the reasons I put my hair back to black after having it red for about a year was the gray coming in! It is definitely much more noticeable in the red hair. It blends a little bit more naturally into the black when it starts coming in. I also am very fair skinned, so when I do go gray I will probably still color a little bit to accentuate it or maybe just had black streaks…ooh that might be fun…all gray with a few black streaks! Gotta keep it edgy even in the graying years!

    I agree with you though, it is a personal journey and I totally support any decision whether it is to go gray or keep coloring!


    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:50h, 30 April Reply

      Oh Shelly, you are still a young whipper snapper! I am going on 49 this summer and don’t feel its for me yet. So right about the grey being noticable more with red, the top of my head had quite a few I had to cover. I actually like the black with grey or grey streaks with black.. kind of like Stacey London’s front grey streak. I appreciate your comment, its been an interesting discussion! xx

  • James Jill
    Posted at 05:13h, 29 April Reply

    Interesting post Jess. I so admire the ladies with lovely silver locks and even though I feel ready my hair is not. When I was travelling last year I let my hair colour grow out to see how it looked, I found what grey I had , not much really, was a darker steeley grey that did not suit my yellow based skin tone at all.I am now back to colouring for as long as it takes.Everyone is different , I have much younger friends with greying hair and older friends who feel happy to colour .

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:44h, 30 April Reply

      Thank you Jill. I know this is more and more popular now, certainly than when I was growing up and I feel as you do. It is my fair skin that makes me know I would look washed away! I too feel that it is an individual decision and I support either way! 🙂 xx

  • Darbie Luce
    Posted at 15:36h, 28 April Reply

    I am 54 and started growing out my gray about a year ago. I just cut my long old dyed hair off and got a short inverted bob! I love the cut (as I have curly hair) and I love my gray hair, but it was an emotional struggle from hell for me to step out of my comfort zone, to make a stake in my world and say “I am Me” and that means “I am going gray”.
    What I have taken from my grayed hair journey is not that it’s bad to dye….but that It’s okay to dye your hair, or go gray, or go crew cut, or go long. It is your journey and no one elses…be who your feel comfortable being, enjoy your journey, change it or don’t change it, but “Embrace” who your are and be the “Women” you choose to be.
    Live, Love, Embrace ~ YOU

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 10:02h, 30 April Reply

      Hi Darbie, I understand! I am getting quite a few greys in, and know that hair can be an emotional subject, especially when your used to seeing yourself a certain way. I have stepped out of my comfort zone with some clothing choices but have been curious people’s thoughts on grey. I do think it is a personal journey and that is wonderful that you concluded it is about being comfortable in who your are, no matter what you choose! I love that. Thanks so much for your comment! xx

  • Lana
    Posted at 15:27h, 28 April Reply

    I imagine at some point I’ll get tired of coloring my hair and let it go gray. There are so many beautiful ladies with gray locks! Thanks for linking up with Fabulous Friday!

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:41h, 30 April Reply

      Hi Lana, so true! If I thought my skin tone would look good grey, I would go for it! xx

  • Kathy Murray
    Posted at 13:52h, 28 April Reply

    You definitely need to have the right skin color. “Winters” are the only people that look good with grey hair. This is usually people with super dark/black hair. They have the cool skin tone to go with the grey hair. Unfortunately I’m a spring, with a yellow skin undertone, so grey looks horrible on me. I will be dying my hair ’til I die….

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 10:04h, 30 April Reply

      Hi Kathy, I agree that skin tone certainly can help one decide about going grey. I think I may be the same with my choice to color the greys. Good to hear from you! xx

  • Sarah Blodgett
    Posted at 11:01h, 28 April Reply

    I think going gray is a personal choice. It’s like any other hair color, it works on some and not on others.

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 11:24h, 28 April Reply

      Yes, I too agree Sarah, I just like to get people’s opinions on what they do after 40. thanks! 🙂 xx

  • jodie filogomo
    Posted at 10:23h, 28 April Reply

    I follow this group on FB called Going Grey Gracefully and I get a ton of inspiration from those ladies.
    I’ve only just started giving up on dying my hair. I figure the chemicals can’t be good for me, and I’m trying to be more healthy overall—so that was the factor that made me think twice!
    I think it’s all about the overall look. Women can look frumpy even with brown hair—so the makeup, the hair cut and even the clothing can add into how great a person looks!!

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 11:26h, 28 April Reply

      Hi Jodie! yes, totally agree on anyone being able to look frumpy no matter what the haircolor. I would love to see how you like your hair gray as we both have fair skin. I think for me too, it comes down to the health of the hair and if it looks conditioned well, healthy . not stringy or dry. I say, if you love it on yourself, go fo it! 🙂
      Have a great weekend!xx

  • Amy Christensen
    Posted at 09:40h, 28 April Reply

    When I started to gray back in my 30’s it was coming in only around my temples. Instead of looking like Rogue from X Men fame, I decided to start coloring and have been coloring ever since. I know, one day, I’ll go gray, as now there is a lot more. In fact, I think I would be close to entirely gray, but I’m just not ready. One day I will be, but not yet! I love your red hair and I can’t imagine you with gray. But like you said, so many women who are gray look amazing. Your friend is the perfect example. Good post, Jess. Have a great weekend. – Amy

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 10:00h, 28 April Reply

      Hi Amy, thanks for your input! I know, I think it is a matter of not being ready or unsure how one would look with greys. It seems I have gotten more over the past year. Enjoy your weekend too! xx

  • Linda
    Posted at 07:52h, 28 April Reply

    At some point, you will be ready to go gray. Red/auburn hair turns a wonderful silver. When you are ready, try doing highlights to ease the transition. I am 60 and had dark brown hair when I was younger. I still have a good bit of dark (mainly in back), so my hair color is kind of steel gray. I have a fair complexion, but not quite as fair as you. Some of your go-to colors may change. I stopped coloring when it became a chore to keep the grays colored, but I have not let myself go!

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:52h, 28 April Reply

      Thank you Linda, I appreciate the comment and feedback! I never say never and I like the idea of highlights to transition. Steel grey sounds so pretty! Yes, I think that is a misconception about going grey and letting other things go. xx

  • JoAnne Baker
    Posted at 07:11h, 28 April Reply

    I feel the same way, I went grey when I was around 18…. been coloring my hair a LONG time now! Plus, I love the way it feels right after I color it.

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:50h, 28 April Reply

      Hi Joanne! I quite supportive of anyone who wants to go grey and I find that many ladies can pull it off. I just dont think i would be one of them. Yes, condition of your hair is so important, no matter what color. Thanks for the comment!

  • jaymieashcraft
    Posted at 06:56h, 28 April Reply

    I’m never ever going to have gray hair. I color the ones I have now. I’m 42 and it’s starting to be where I notice them a lot more since they stick out in red hair. Ha!!

    • Jess Jannenga
      Posted at 09:48h, 28 April Reply

      Hi Jaymie! Yes, they do! I had alot on the top of my head recently and hair line.. going on 49, it was bound to happen! 🙂 xx

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