How do you perceive yourself? Is it the same way others see you? Often times we are hard on ourselves, and I think, as women, compare ourselves to others or we find flaws in our own selves. I loved this quote by Marilyn Monroe, “ Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.’ There are so many quotes about being yourself, and being happy with what you see.
What I have come to realize over the years, is that, i strive to be a good person and the person I am proud to be. All of the insecurities over the years, especially in my youth have faded, as i look at myself as someone who has overcome challenges, a person who cares about others, and someone with a strong relationship with family.
I remember thinking, when i was in high school a friend of mine was modeling for Kaufmann’s newspaper as a print model. I wanted to be like her. I thought her blonde hair was perfect, she was taller than me, ( even me being 5 9;)and popular, I thought she had it all. By contrast, I was bullied, had a difficult time with people in school and just wasn’t happy with myself. I thought a lot about how I could change, and what i should do to make myself more attractive.
They say you get ‘wiser’ as you age, and I think it is because we are more introspective. Appearance matters, but our internal self is of such importance. When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Are you reassuring and positive or do you find fault in all of the wrinkles or so-called “imperfections”? As a woman at midlife, I do what I can for skin health and making myself feel good, so i do think of things I like about myself, both physically and emotionally.
I wonder if you heard of the new Google App that matches your selfie or face to a famous painting? I looked this up and noticed some people’s likenesses were being compared to Botticelli, Rembrandt. I joked with my husband saying mine would be a Picasso, as I have a sharp jaw and angled features. It was a joke! That is the thing, you have to be able to laugh at yourself! I try not to take everything so seriously.
Next time you wake up and look in the mirror, think of 3-5 things you want to say about yourself in a positive manner:
- Name a feature you love about yourself. I love my green eyes. They are big, expressive and remind me of my Dad, as both he and I are the only green eyes in the family.
- My smile is lovely. Again, it makes me think of my Dad, as when we grew up, he had a darkroom. I was conditioned to smile for pics hehe, and was told I had a nice smile.
- I am a caring person and love to think of other people. I am one to enjoy sending “thank you’ notes or letters as I do think it is just that extra little step that shows your appreciation to people.
- I am outgoing. I love to talk to people. I remind myself of my mom, as she can make friends with a total stranger!
So tell me, do you see yourself how others see you? Are you kind to yourself ?
If you enjoyed this post, read a prior post, Confidence at Midlife.
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